Break-ups seem to be, unfortunately a normal part of the modern day life. Healing from relationship break-ups and divorce are a difficult task at best. Some people never completely recover, carrying with them the pain of the break up through life. Others become immobilized from the fear of getting close to a partner again. Even celebrities have break-ups; Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston to be said the most famous one.Some women try to speed up their recovery time by replacing the void with another man or woman immediately.

According to a relationship poll of over 8,000 women conducted by WomanSavers.com, over 57% of women have thought of having a same sex affair. Jumping into another relationship without proper healing time is one of the worst things you can do. Women who are guilty of this frequently suffer from codependence and have never learned how to be happy alone. However, until a woman learns how to be happy on her own, she can never be happy with a man or woman.

Even if you are the one who initiated the breakup, the feeling of loss and separation can be distressing. There is a mental state called “separation anxiety”, which describes the feelings you may have now that your partner is no longer a part of your life, your thoughts, and your emotions. The important thing is to figure out the best way to get past this and get the breakup out of your system.

The following are the top 10 ways to recover from a break up and speed up the healing process.

1. Allow yourself plenty of healing time. Different people heal at different rates so be patient with yourself. It’s okay to grieve and cry, just make sure you make an effort to not use this as an excuse for being a hermit many months later.

2. Stay busy. Don’t allow yourself any “daydreaming” time. If you have time for a part time job, get one. If you don’t want a job, take up some volunteer work. Take up a hobby. Focus on anything you enjoy.

3. Exercise and improve your diet. Besides giving you a positive endorphin rush, joining a gym can put you into social circumstances. Through exercising and improving your diet, you’ll not only be taking care of your body and your health, you’ll improve your self-esteem as well.

4. Make an effort to meet new people. Join a club, take a class, volunteer, go the park, attend a concert. Allow these larger social groups to replace the connections you had with your lover for a while. Take action and just do it.

5. Seek professional therapy. There is no shame in seeking outside help. If you can’t afford therapy, seek out a support from a relationship recovery message board.

6. Surround yourself with as many family and friends as possible. If your relationship with your friends and family suffered because of the huge amount of time you spent with your sweetheart, now is the time to patch up old relationships.

7. Focus on yourself. Much of your energy went into your relationship and now you have time to pamper yourself. Take those long baths you never had time for, read that saucy novel that has dust on it, so now is the time to work on yourself.

8. Strengthen your spiritual side. Go to church, learn from a yogi, or pray. It’s amazing how these things can help re-center you.

9. Give advice to other women who have it much worse than you. It will put things in perspective and allow you to stop feeling sorry for yourself. There are lots of people with problems far worse than yours. Help them.

10. Adopt a pet. Studies show that people with pets are overall happier and live longer. Go to your local animal shelter and adopt a pet in need. Just make sure you have the time to take care of your new friend properly.Print out this break-up advice and place it somewhere where you can see it every day. Utilizing the above 10 ways to speed up recovering from a break-up won’t take away the pain, but it will definitely help ease it.

Written by Dating Expert, Stephany Alexander, B.A., Author, Women's Speaker
Credentials:  Stephany Alexander is the founder of www.WomanSavers.com, one of the most popular women's sites on the net (top 5%) receiving millions of hits per month.

* Founder - highest trafficked abused women's message board on the net
* Founder of Largest Online Database of Men in the World
* Author of 'Sex, Lies and the Internet,' A Survival Guide to Online Dating http://www.sexliesandtheinternet.com
* Dating expert on numerous talks shows and call-in radio shows
* Author of over 50 articles on online dating and relationships
* Author of 22 dating and relationship quizzes
* Internet Polling Expert on relationship and dating issues, surveying over 350,000 women in on-line polls
* Creator of 9 women's comedy cartoon e-cards, including one claymation
* Creator of 6 women's online games, one arcade quality

Ms. Alexander is frequently called on by the media as the nation's leading Dating Expert. Featured on: CNN, CBS, FOX, Sirius Satellite, KROQ, KIIS, Mike & Juliet Show, Good Day Las Vegas, Esquire Magazine, Wall Street Journal, NY Times, and countless radio shows.
 

How to know that your girlfriend loves you!

It is not an easy job to know whether a woman likes you. Women are by nature, nurturers. It is natural for them to lavish affection and care. So if a woman you like pampers you like a baby, don't take it for granted that she is in love with you. However, if she goes out of her way to make you feel special, then there may be chances that she really likes you. A woman gives strong yet subtle signs that she loves you. Read on further for ways to find if a girl likes you. You will find a definite answer to the question of how to know if she loves you.

Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You

• Whenever you compliment her, her cheeks turn pink. If she blushes when you are around, it means she is smitten by you.
• She shows public display of affection. Women are not always comfortable with showing affection in public. But if she runs her fingers through your locks, or strokes your cheek, take notice.
• The way she looks at you with those dreamy eyes, is a dead give away that she likes you.
• Check out her body language when you sit with her. If she sits with cross legs facing you, it means she is interested in you. Also, if she touches your shoulders or rests her palm on yours, it is a sign that she likes you.
• When going out with you, she takes extra care to look good. She adds sensuality to her whole outfit combined with simplicity and elegance.
• The way she smiles and laughs at your jokes is a sign that she likes you.
• She pays extra attention to you and takes interest in the activities you do, it means she definitely has a soft corner for you.
• While talking to her friends and family, if she brags about you, know for sure that you are definitely someone special for her.
• If she talks to you for long hours and avoids calls from her friends during the time of conversation, know for sure that you are being given more importance than others, which is a direct road to being loved.
• If she always encourages you to go forward with your plans and chips in good advice for you to move ahead in personal and professional life, she is definitely an ideal lover.
• If she wants to spend some extra time with you and help you in all ways possible, it means she is in love with you.
• The willingness to sacrifice is a clear cut answer to know if she loves you or not. She would go that extra mile to make you happy, even if that means sacrificing her hobby.
• Although the feeling of jealousy is not good, sometimes healthy jealousy gives hint that the other person is afraid of losing you and has feelings for you.
• Worrying about your safety and whereabouts is one thing through which women often show their love and care. If your girl feels in the same way, know for sure you are her special one.
• During a conversation with you, if she blinks her eye, know that the girl in question is trying to give you hints.

By now you should be sure as to what are the signs to watch out for if a girl truly likes you. More than anything else, it is important to respect her emotions than play with them. So if the woman you like is showing these signs, don't be hesitant to go and speak out your mind to her. Who knows you may be in for a pleasant surprise!!

Best SmS for your girlfriend!!

Yeh wafa ka sila hai toh koi baat nahi,
Yeh dard tum ne diya hai toh koi baat nahi!
Yeh bahot hai ke dekhte ho sahil se,
 Safina dubraha hai to koi baat nahi!! 

Never frown,
ven when you are sad,
 because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.






No One Can Understand The Cry,
The Tears In SomeOne's Eye....
Until Or Unless They Have Tears
In Their Own Eyes ...
 

.Kabhi Kisi Se Pyaar Mat Karna
Ho Jaaye To Inkaar Mat Karna
Nibha Sako To Chalna Uski Raah Par
Varna Kisi Ki Zindagi Barbaad Mat Karna…

    

If one day you feel like crying, call me.
I can't promise to make you laugh,
but I'm willing to cry with you

If u r a chocolate ur the sweetest,
if u r a Teddy Bear u r the most huggable,
 If u are a Star u r the Brightest,
 and since u r my “FRIEND” u r the “BEST”!!!!!!!!!

GOD is so wise that he never created FRIENDS with pricetags,
 Because..... if He did,
 I can't afford a precious FRIEND like YOU!!!


If 10 people care 4 u,
one of them is me,
if 1 person cares 4 u that would be me again,
if no 1 cares 4 u that means i m not in this world.

Six way to be handsome(for men)

Every guy on this earth may want to look handsome but you have to know how to do that. Here are a few tips on how to help yourself look handsome and catch anyone's eye.

Difficulty:

Moderately Easy

Instructions

1. • 1
     You should have a good haircut. A haircut that hides your bad features and accentuates your good ones. A lot of shorter hair styles are considered handsome rather than longer ones.
   • 2
     Have good posture. You should not hunch your back when you are sitting or standing. It can cause back problems and make you seem unsure.
   • 3
     You should smile whenever you can. Smiling is not some sign of weakness or softness. There are a lot of men who believe this to be true but it is not.
   • 4
     Practice good hygiene. You should take a shower every day and brush your teeth twice a day (once in the morning, once at night).
   • 5
     Always be yourself. Just breath, relax and have fun when you are with friends. You don't have to put on a gimmick or act like an idol. Just be calm and have fun while you are doing it.
   • 6
     Have a dress style. The style doesn't have to be what ever is popular but you should feel comfortable in what you are wearing.

A VERY SAD LOVE STORY THAT MAKES U CRY!!

LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU! " Jeanne's eyes were wide and filled with tears. She was afraid of what he would say to her.
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Jeanne was a nerdy girl with thick glasses. She was a junior in her middle school. She was in love with the hottest guy in the entire school.

And now, she told him that she loved him.

"Haha! Shut up. Nobody would like you! Who do you think I am?"

Jeanne had feared he would say something like that. She was devastated. She started running. She didn't want to face him ever again. All these thoughts and feelings ran throughout her head. Until, she bumped into something.

"Hey, whats up?"

She had bumped into James.

"WHAT?! I'll GO TELL HIM! WHERE DOES HE GET THAT NERVE! SOMETIMES, I DON'T KNOW WHY I'M HIS BEST FRIEND! THAT'S IT! i'M GOING TO GO BEAT HIM UP!"

"NO! James! Don't do it! It's not his fault. I was the foolish one to think we can ever date."
"But Jeanne!"
" No, it's OK! I should go."
" JEANNE... James grabbed her by the wrist as she was getting up. Don't go."

Jeanne stared into his eyes and felt so warm and fuzzy; a feeling she didn't feel for a long time. But, she looked away. She saw in such a long time, it felt awkward to feel it again. And then she gently took her wrist out of James' grasp and slowly walked away from him with tears in her eyes.

"Dammit, James! You really did it this time! Jeanne just left you! And why are you trying to hit on her?"

James walked back home with his hands stuffed in his pocket. Thoughts of Jeanne ran throughout his head. He didn't want Jeanne to be hurt by a jackass. He wanted to show her that he loved her. He wanted to show her he cared. But Jeanne just seemed to ignore him. And then, something ran into him. He crashed on the ground and saw Jeanne was on top of him. She seemed to not know whom she crashed into. James smiled.

"Oh, I'm so sorry. I'm very, very sorry. I should have been more careful.. I'm sorry. Can I repay you somehow?"
"Jeanne", James said, lifting her chin and brushing her bangs. Jeanne looked through his soft eyes and almost melted.
"James..." said Jeanne. Suddenly, she started crying. James was shocked.
" J-Jeanne? What's wrong?"
"I' m s-s-such a f-fool! H-How c-c-can I th-think t-that G-Gyung H-Hoon c-can love me?"
"Jeanne.. I would not call that foolish.. I actually admire you going up to him and confessing. However, crying about him is indeed foolish. Jeanne, Don't cry about that jerk. Here, let's go to my house. We're right in front of it!" Jeanne nodded.

James led her to the bathroom.

"Take off your glasses. We need to wipe those tears off." He said with a smile. Jeanne took them off without a word. James turned on the water and wet a washcloth. Then, he gently wiped her tears off her face.
" James.. Do you love me?" James was startled by this comment.
" Why do you ask me that?"
" Because.. it seems like it. Do you?"
" Haha! Jeanne, you are my friend."
" Oh.. OK. I think I'm not so teary now. Thanks, James."
" No Problem. Do you want something to drink?"
" Um... OK." She followed James out the door.
He handed her a glass of orange juice and they sat down outside on a bench.
" Are you going to be all right?"
" Yeah.. Thanks. But I don't think I'll be able to face him again."
" When he calls you something bad, just yell my name. OK?"
" OK." she said with a small laugh.
" But what are you going to do when I call you?"
" I'm going to beat him up!"
" What if everyone starts hating you?"
" It doesn't matter. As long as the one girl I love is happy."
" Ooh, James! You like someone?"
" Yeah.. Guess. I'll never tell you until you get the right answer."
" Hmm... is it Amy? She's pretty! What about Lauren? She's nice and quiet. Or is it Becca? She's generous. Or maybe it's Courtney! She's not all that nice though..."

After a few tries, she gave up.

"Who is it? I'm dying of curiosity!"
" Let's see.. she has glasses.. she's in love with Eric, she's sitting right next to me! Jeanne let out a small gasp."
" M-Me?" James nodded. Jeanne almost passed out.
" James! I have declared you crazy." James started laughing.
" Why won't you believe me? I like you.. I want you to be my girlfriend."
" But you're the second hottest guy in school! What if everyone criticizes you for bad taste in girls?"
" I don't care¦ I told you. As long as the one girl I love is happy." he said, smiling.
" No, really, James. No games this time. All serious.. all right?"
" Yeah.. I know."
" Oh my god..." Jeanne said, covering her mouth with her hand.
"Jeanne, I just want to be the right guy for you." he said while putting his arm around her shoulder. She leaned against him and for the first time, she felt accepted by someone special.
"But, James! Why did you say I was just a friend before?"
"Umm! I didn't feel like it was time yet." Jeanne nodded. She knew how hard it was to say, "I love you." She knew how nervous you would feel. And she knew how hard it was to feel the reject.
"I understand, James. I'm just glad you told me. I'll think about it."
"Jeanne, do you still like Eric?"
"Yes!"
"What has he got, that I don't?"
"I just don't know! I mean! you two look the same! you guys wear things all similarly! but! I like Eric better."
"All right! I'll make him like you. He knows he's not going to win in a fight." Jeanne wrapped him in her arms.
"James! I'm all right. You don't have to do all that." And then he wrapped her in his arms.

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"Eric, can I see you for a moment?"
"What up, dude?"
"It's about Jeanne!"
"Oh no! don't tell me about that ugly! I just barf when I hear her name!"
"SHUT UP! DUDE, YOU JUST HAVE TO GIVE HER A CHANCE! WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?"
"Hey! I have other girls who want me. The least thing I need now is another girl who is ugly and slow liking me."
"She's not ugly and slow! She's kind and beautiful in the inside when you get to know her!"
"Wait! do you!?"
"Yes! I do!"
"Haha! Then why don't you date her?"
"Because! she's in love with a jackass!"
"STILL? Haha! Man, she's hilarious! After I rejected her like that?"
"Hey! please! it would mean a lot to me! just say that you at least like her as a friend and apologize for what happened last time. Man, she came running all the way to my house and started crying! She was just! out of control, man! Just tell her that! please?"
"All right!"
"You're the best!"
"Hey, Jeanne! I'm sorry for what happened last time. I was sort of tired and grouchy. I wasn't in a good mood. I never wanted to say it that way. I like you as a friend. And I want to keep that relationship. All right?" Eric let out a hand for a shake. Jeanne nodded. She let out her hand and they had a friendship shake, which made James smile.

"See? Eric likes you! He just wants to keep the relationship just as friends! All cool with you?"
"Yes.." she said softly. James took her hand and walked away with her.
"You all right, now?"
"Yeah!" she nodded. "But he only wants us to be friends! because I'm a nerd!"
"Jeanne! Why don't you ever think about me? You know he's a jerk! Why do you mope around for that! So what, if he doesn't like you! Everyone is different, Jeanne. To my eyes, you are a beauty. You can't always think about him! There are other guys out there for you! Not just Eric and me! I really don't want to see you like this."

"James! Do you really love me?"
"I don't think I need to answer that!" They stared at each other for a long time.
"James!" She tried to push him away and he staggered a little.
"Jeanne! answer this for me! do you love me?"
"James, I never intended to be your girlfriend. I just want to be your friend."
"Oh, I see! you're treating me like how Eric treated you. You don't want to be my girlfriend because I'm way different than you. You don't want to be my girlfriend because I'm better looking than you and you're afraid that people will jeer you because of that. Well, you know what? I don't care about any of that!" And with that, he grabbed her and locked her lips into his. After a while, he moved away.

"Oh, you really do love me!" She hugged him.
"But, Jeanne! do you still have feelings for him?"
"Yes! I always have, and always will."
"Do you want to be pretty? Like those girls over there?" James pointed to a group of girls. They all had big hoop earrings and what Jeanne noticed was that they did not have any thick glasses like her. Jeanne nodded. She was pretty ashamed about it.
"It's all right, Jeanne. All girls want to be good looking. Even they were ugly once. Everyone is."
"Really?"
"Sure! I used to act like a girl once. I always thought about my appearance, my clothes, and my hair ; just like a girl."
"Haha! That's funny!"
"It's good to see you laugh. Now, Jeanne. I'll help you become pretty'. Then will you be happy?"
"I don't know. I've never been attractive in my life.." she said innocently.
"Well, it's time you are!"

Love SMS for Girlfriend

Love is a wonderful feeling that should be expressed as otherwise you may end up losing the person you love. So it is important to convey your feelings to the person you love, and tell her how special he is to you. Let your girlfriend know how much you love her as it’ll keep the spark of love alive between the two of you.

The best way to express your thoughts to your girlfriend is by sending romantic and lovely messages on her mobile. It is not that you should send the sms just on an occasion like the Valentine’s Day or Rose Day. In fact, you should do it quite often just to make your girlfriend feel how much you care for her.

Significance of Love SMS for Girlfriend

If you are in love, you shouldn’t ignore the importance of love sms messages. However, you may find it difficult to express your thoughts if you are an introvert. This is because love is something that is often hard to express even though you may speak a lot. This is when you can create and send love text messages to your girlfriend. You can even try modifying some of the interesting messages you receive on your mobile and send them to your partner. In case you can’t create text messages on your own, start collecting love sms for girlfriends from various websites and send them to your lover at regular intervals.

There are a variety of websites offering free love sms for girlfriends. You can just browse through these sites to pick and choose the ones you prefer. What’s best about these sites is that they provide love sms not only in English but also in vernacular languages. These cute love sms help convey your true feelings to your lover and add a human touch that can actually melt her heart.

How to Write Lovely Sms for Girlfriend

Expressing your love and emotion to your girlfriend is not an easy task, especially if it’s the Valentine’s Day and your lover wants you to do something special for her. This is when you can make the extra effort and try writing I love you sms by yourself. Doing this will convince your partner that you are indeed loving and caring and you want to do something unique for her. Given below are a few tips to help you write cute love sms.

Tips to Write Love Sms to Girlfriends

• Use short messages: If you’re writing love sms for the first time, it is better to avoid writing long messages. This is because you may not be able to create a good message if you try making it too long.
• Use appropriate language: The language you use when writing the sms should be such that it speaks about your emotions in a simple yet elegant way.
• Be creative: You should try making your message as creative as possible. All you need is to find out the positive qualities in your partner and create an sms focusing on those qualities. Think about a few words which can reflect your creativity and make your partner realize that you have taken some time out of your hectic schedule just to create a few lines expressing your deepest emotions for her.
• Avoid complex messages: You should stay away from composing love messages which are complicated. Just be yourself and use simple words to depict your love for your partner. Avoid writing a serious message, as it won’t serve your purpose.

Prior to writing a love sms, try thinking about your partner. All your emotions toward her including how your life was before you met her and what has changed after you fell in love with her will keep coming to your mind. These thoughts will help you write an sms through which you’ll express your true love for your partner in just a few words.

Love SMS to Girlfriends – Few Examples

Love is something you can easily develop in your heart but you may not be able to express it quickly through speech. This is when you may use love sms for girlfriends and make her understand how much you feel for her. Given below are examples of lovely sms for girlfriends, which you can use to let your partner know how important she is to you.

* If there ever comes a day when we can't be together, keep me in your heart; I'll stay there forever.

* You may be out of my sight, but not out of my heart. U may be out of my reach, but not out of my mind. I may mean nothing to you, but you’ll always be special to me.

* If I know what love is, it is because of you.

* For the last 24 hrs, 1440 minutes, 86400 seconds, I’ve missed you.

* There are three steps to complete happiness – you, me and our hearts for eternity.

* If I could describe you in one word, I would call you my life.

* To be honest with you, I do not have the words to make you feel better, but I do have the arms to give you a hug, ears to listen to whatever you want to talk about, and I have a heart that is aching to see you smile again.

* Every hour I think of you, every minute I think of you, every second I think of you, I live for you and I die for you.

* When I look into your eyes, I know it’s true; you were made for me and I for you.

* Here is my heart; it is yours, so take it, treat it gently and please do not break it. It’s full of love that’s good and true, so please keep it always close to you.

* If you see a shooting star, close your eyes and make a wish. It worked for me; I wish it works for you!

* Roses of red grow in my heart and they will never wither because they bloom every time I see your smile, hear your voice or just think of you!

* Love is not about finding the right person, but creating the right relationship. It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end, because love is all there is.

Cute Love SMS for Your Girlfriend

If you want to send cute romantic messages to your lover, take a look at the ones mentioned below.

* When I close my eyes, I see you. When I open my eyes, I see you. There is nothing I can do without thinking of you.

* I can climb a thousand mountains and swim a thousand miles just to see you smile.

* You brighten my day with the sound of your voice, you bring so much laughter and love, you are everything to me and I was so blessed when god sent you here for me.

* Somewhere, someone dreams of your smile and finds your presence in life so worthwhile. So when you are lonely, remember it's true that someone somewhere is thinking of you.

* Sun may rise, moon may fall, but I think my life would never be this nice if I never knew you at all.

* Loving you is like breathing. I can’t stop and it’s necessary for my survival.

* Love is what I see in, your smile every day. Love is what I feel in, every touch you give. Love is what I hear in, every word you say. Love is what we share, every day we live.

* You would find admiration; you would find respect; you would find appreciation and most of all you would find love. I love you with all of my being and I always will! 

* With the start of each new day, I find myself thinking of you; in the middle of my busy day, my mind wanders and I think of you.

* Words aren’t enough to tell you how wonderful you are. Although I am making a small attempt to tell you so, the fact remains that I still love you.

Sometimes, you may argue with your girlfriend for a simple issue which can be easily sorted out through a discussion with her. Now, if you send an I love you sms in this situation, it can help stop the fight within a short time period. Moreover, such an sms will help you rejuvenate your relationship.

It doesn’t matter if you are thousands of miles away from your lover. Distance can never be the reason for not sending a love message to your partner. This is because the technology these days is more advanced; hence, you have a number of ways to send love messages to your partner. Moreover, some of the best expressions of one’s emotion are sometimes possible in his/her partner’s absence or when the latter is distant from the lover.

31ways to make girl laugh!

I’m not a girl and I will never know if these ways can make girls smile. Every girl is different and and are pretty in their own way!

1. Tell her she is beautiful
2. Hold her hand at any moment … even if its ust for a second.
3. Hug her from behind
4. Leave her voice messages to wake up to.
5. Wrestle with her
6. Don’t go hang out with you ex when she is not with you, you might not relize how badly it hurts her.
7. If youre talking to another girl, when you’re done talking, walk over and hug her and kiss her….let her know she’s yours and they aren’t.
8. Write her notes or call her just to say “hi”
9. Introduce her to your friends … as your girlfriend.
10. Play with her hair.
11. Pick her up (she loves it)
12. Get upset if another guy touches her and she doesn’t like it
13. Make her laugh
14. Let her fall asleep in your arms.
15. If she’s mad at you, kiss her.
16. If you care about her, then TELL HER
17. Every guy should give their girl 3 things: a stuffed animal (she’ll hug it every time she goes to sleep), jewelry (she’ll treasure it forever), and one of her t-shirts (she’ll most likely wear it to bed) or sweatshirts sprayed with her cologne!! and flowers or something occasionally.
18. Treat her the same around your friends as you do when you’re alone.
19. Look her in the eyes and smile.
20. Hang out with her on weekends
21. Kiss her in the rain (girls love this)
22. Kiss her just for the heck of it
23. If your listening to music, let her listen too.
24. Remember her birthday and get her something, even if its’n simple and inexpensive, it came from YOU. it means all the world to HER.
25. When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas, or just whenever, take it and tell her you love it, even if you don’t (it’ll make her happy.)
26. Always call her when you say you will, it may not seem like it, but it does hurt her and makes her think you don’t care so call even if you can only talk for a minute. Girls don’t necessarily have to have hour long conversations every night but its nice for us to hear your voice even for a quick hello.
27. Give her wat she wants
28. Recognize the small things … they usually mean the most.
29. Don’t hug her friends or your friends that are girls cause she’ll feel left out.
30. Hang out with her whenever you are free and u should be free to hang wit your girl friend all the time
31. If u care about her…SHOW her!